While I’m not a withered up old lady, I am coming close to 40, and younger kids consider me old now. I may not be in the place I’d like to be in my life right now… But I have learned a lot. I thought I’d compile a list for your reading pleasure
Take chances-Even if it’s on the amazing pair of heels that you don’t think you can walk in…Why not have a beautiful pair of heels in your closet?
Love yourself-This seems like a joke, but honestly, when you’re sitting on the couch with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, sobbing your eyes out while watching some sappy movie because someone broke up with you or you had a bad day…Love yourself. You are a beautiful, fierce, strong willed person and you can do it. Tomorrow you won’t need Ben & Jerry’s, and you’ll be right back on your feet.
Everything changes-I have a 19 year old friend who has been dating her boyfriend for 4 years, and swears they’re going to get married in 5 more years. I look at her everyday and think: ‘honey, if you only knew’. Nothing is permanent and everything changes, no matter how much you fight it.
Always, always, always show the love that you have to others-Truth-you could wake up tomorrow morning and they could be gone. Or…you could be sitting at home and get a call from someone telling you that someone died. Even when you feel like you don’t matter to someone, or you’re angry at them, they are in your life for a purpose and you need to show that you care.
The grass usually is NEVER greener on the other side. The end.
Take time each month to spend with your girl friends or man friends. The time is like a refresher to you and you need to charge the batteries. No matter how much you think you have it together…you don’t.
Think positive-This is a cheesy and obvious lesson. But it is so incredibly true. What you put out in the universe comes back to you ten fold
Write-Even if it’s a line a day, the memories are worth it.
Sing in the shower, dance in the car-Because…why not?
Love your momma-She is the only one who has literally been there for you every. single. day of your life…and one day she won’t be anymore. Taking all of those memories with you is a treasure that you can pass on to your kiddos.
Change jobs-If you are doing something that doesn’t make you proud, or that you want to die a slow painful death when you’re at work-find something that makes you happy, even if the pay is less. Isn’t your happy worth some money?
Travel-I live in a rural area of Colorado and one day my friend and I traveled to 20 small towns in a day. While that doesn’t sound exciting, we sure got to see a lot of beautiful and different things. You don’t always have to have a fancy five star vacation somewhere.
Choose to be friends with one person who you’d never be friends with-Sometimes, that friend can teach you more, love you more and be a better friend than your typical friends.
It’s ok to be single-Like I said, I’m not where I want to be in my life…but being single IS ok.
Living alone is amazing-No joke, it scared me to death the first time I moved into my own apartment. But honestly, being able to come home and sit in pure silence is the greatest gift I could have ever given myself. Try to do it for at least a year.
Date the wrong guy…at least once-That guy will teach you more about yourself than sitting on a mountain top pondering life for an entire day will.
Love Jesus-I recognize that not everyone is a practicing Christian, but if you are, try to read a passage a day, it will change your life.
If you are single, date online at least once-No, it’s not as creepy as everyone makes it, as long as you do it the safe way. I’ve dated about 12 guys from every dating site you can imagine. Some of them ended in utter heart break, some ended on a friendly note, but mostly, it was just fun to date and get to know other people.
Learn to laugh at yourself-Let’s face it-we all do some stupid shit. What wouldn’t make it easier, being upset about it, or laughing your ass off at the learning experience you just had.
Go to Target-Target is a magical land where all troubles and woes escape you and you live in harmony for several hours looking at amazing things that are actually in your price range.
Drink wine-It’s an acquired taste, but nothing says sophisticated like having wine with your dinner.
Don’t be afraid to get dirty-There’s something to be said for a woman-or a man who is willing to play in the mud, go fishing or whatever other activities. Plus, playing in the mud is freakin’ awesome.
Take pictures- There will be a day where you don’t remember what you did yesterday, let alone 20 years ago. The importance of a picture is that even as the days pass, it seems like nothing changes…but then when you look back in pictures, everything has changed.
Read- Anything. A favorite book can give you a paragraph or a sentence to live by, or take you to another world just by reading a few words.
Never settle for second place-You are worth more than just an affair, or being with someone who only wants you when they have nothing else to do. You’re more than the girl who lays in bed with the guy who has a girlfriend, or even worse, you’re better than the guy who wants you only for sex. Never, ever settle.
Marriage is hard- No matter how simple it looks in a 1950’s sitcom show, marriage is just plain hard. You can do your best some days and it just isn’t enough. But then there are those days…Where you can make it worth it. Just don’t quit trying. You promised to be with this person for the REST. OF. YOUR. LIFE
And the last, most important. Take it easy on yourself, you’re doing the best you can- I have gone through so many things in life. Trials, tribulations, divorce, being so poor I had to sleep on someone’s couch. Relationship issues, you name it. And the biggest lesson I’ve learned about my life at this point is-at that moment, you are truly doing the best that you can. Take it easy, and if you don’t like what you’re doing for yourself today, make tomorrow better. You’ve got this, and life isn’t always hard. There are days that make it absolutely beautiful.